Nationality is the legal relationship between an individual human and a Nation.
Race is a classification system used to categorize humans into large and distinct populations or physical appearance.
Ethnicity is an ethnic character, background, or affiliation.
Example: I was born and raised in Kenya, my ethnicity is Kenyan. However, I moved to the US and over time become a US citizen, my nationality is American. Based on global guidelines of race, I am black, due my physical appearance.
Let me start with a story. As a way to earn extra cash I often baby-sit through an agency. (I mean NYC is EXPENSIVE and a girl gotta eat.) I recently babysat this adorable 4-year-old boy who is OBSESSED with Spiderman. I even had to keep him from climbing on the furniture several times. LOL! Any who, it was movie time and he brings me the DVD for “Spiderman 3” which has the following case art:
After convincing the 4 year old the movie is too scary for ME to watch, he looks at me, with complete innocence, and ask, “Why is that Spiderman black?’
Now, because I am a complete comic book GEEK my initial thoughts were, “WHAT!?! How do you not know???? He’s Venom, DUH!!! Come on kid! I THOUGHT YOU WERE A FAN!?!!!!!!” But it would have been wrong of me to make fun of scold him due to his lack of Marvel education, so I simply said, “Because he’s Venom.” How silly of me to think that would be good enough explanation for a 4 year old? He asks again, “but why is he black?” so I responded, “Because he’s the bad guy.”
At first I didn’t think much of my response. It’s the truth, Venom is one of the villains in the third Spiderman movie thusly a “bad guy”. It wasn’t until the little boy said, “So, the black one is the bad one?” that it hit me. I looked at his innocent little face and could tell he was digesting the thought, “Black one= bad one=evil.” I freaked.
My mind started racing, “What have I done??? Will this be the catalyst that will start a spiral of racial profiling??? OH-EM-GEE!!! Did I just help create another radical conservative!?!?!” (Shameless jab)
Now, it’s possible I was thinking too hard. As a side effect of babysitting various privileged kids I often find myself relating to the Best-Selling novel and Oscar Nominated film, “The Help.” I just think…
So I quickly sat the little boy down and tried my best to explain to him in the simplest, most delicate matter that Venom is AWESOME! In fact he is one of the best characters/villains in the Spiderman Marvel Universe. That the actual Venom persona is the side effect of an extraterrestrial parasite that attaches it’s self to Spiderman’s suit. Ultimately turning the suit black and causing Spiderman to act irrationally. I tried my best not to focus on the actual color of the suit but the simple fact that when the suit changes color its a visual clue that Spiderman isn’t his usual “friendly” self.
After a 20 minute, well thought out explanation, the little boy turns to me and says, “So when he turns black he turns bad?” LOL!! Bless his heart. Can I blame the kid? He’s 4! How can I expect him to grasp concepts deeper than shapes and colors? Can I blame Stan Lee , the creator of Venom, for having a “black” villain when he also created the Green Goblin, Doctor Octopus, and Sandman? Can I blame myself for not thinking how he might internalize my answer? I don’t know. All I could do was laugh, rub his little head, and say a small prayer that 1.) One day he will understand the concept behind the “Venom Suit” (nerd prayer) 2.) He will not be eternally brainwashed into relating black to bad.
Now most would say I was just being paranoid but was I? Look at what’s happening to our society. Over the last month the amount of racism I have seen in our country has been disgusting. Maybe I just live in a bubble, but I really thought WE, as a people in the United States, had transcended the ignorant thoughts of predecessors in terms of skin color. More specifically the younger generations, who are growing up in a mixed society where there is an African- American president. Call me crazy, but I expect to see more levels of acceptance among our youth. How naive of me?
Instead I fear for our youth. Surfing the web I have come across the most disturbing things and I’m not just talking about the sad case known as Trayvon Martin. I’m talking about the Face book posts, bumper stickers, the public outrage on movie castings, the hate crimes and don’t get me started on the ignorance of twitter. It’s really sad that so many young minds (of all races) feel/ think this way. You really have to wonder, “Where do these kids get this?” The worst part is most of them don’t even realize they’re being racist. SMH! We need to do better.
Many will debate that racism will always be an issue if you keep talking about it but acting like it doesn’t exist and constantly sweeping it under the rug doesn’t help either. The truth of the matter is that racism is ALIVE and KICKING. The evidence is all over the Internet. So you have a choice, you can 1.) Ignore it. Or 2.) You can educate those around you and let them know it’s not ok to judge a person’s moral character based on the color of their skin. At least I tried to explain the “Venom” concept to the little boy. How many of you would have ended the conversation when he said, “So the black one is the bad one?”
Just some food for thought.
Author’s Note: I on purposefully left the little boy’s race out of my story and decided to describe him simply as “Innocent.” I wanted to show that it doesn’t make a difference if he was a Caucasian or Person of Color. If he relates “Black to bad” he could grow up both hating himself and people like him or hating those who don’t look like him. Either outcome is a problem for our society as a whole not just a singular race.
The medical [profession] tries to tell every woman, ‘Have your babies before 40 because you shouldn’t have children after 40.’ Society tells us, ‘Get married before 30, because no man wants a woman after 30.’ You are not half the woman you’re gonna be until you turn 30. You’re not even half of…
The Tales of a Light-Skinned Black Woman: The Beauty War
It’s no secret, life is filled with obstacles for the black woman. I can write several posts on the statistics demonstrating how our demographic is destined to fail in every aspect of life (don’t get me started on our marriage rate). It’s a shame….. but what’s even sadder is the disgust black woman have for themselves. It’s hard being black in America but sometimes it’s even harder being a light-skinned black female in her own community.
Before you start protesting hear me out.
There are certain assumptions about light skinned black women. Growing up in the south, I found myself a target in high school. I went to a fairly mixed school but of the blacks in my grade I was the lightest female. In the land of paper bag testing, my light skin color is a symbol of a bias dating back to slavery. It doesn’t help that the modern day entertainment industry often displays lighter black women with black men, white men, and a happy family.
My brown friends got in their head that black men only like women with light skin and long hair. They also believed since they did not have the light-skin or the European features that were displayed in mass media they were not pretty, safe, or sociably acceptable. I on the other hand possessed all three of these elements. (skin, features, and hair) Who cares if it was the early 2000s I was automatically seen as the high yella, think she betta than any one else, house negra our ancestors, for whatever reason, envied. That logic screwed life up for me.
Due to the perceptions of light-skinned women I was bullied. I became the butt of all my darker friends jokes. I would try to look nice going to school but if a guy noticed it didn’t take long for someone to tell him he shouldn’t compliment me or I’ll get big headed. Any dude I was interested in some one else already had “claims”. One time a friend told me, to my face, a guy I liked was too cute for me and then pursued him herself. I didn’t understand the source of the “attacks” at the time. Regardless, it didn’t take long for me to learn if I want to have friends I can’t be pretty and I need to stay single.
Thank God in college (after meeting a fellow lightie) not only did I start to find my confidence but so did many of my friends. I’ve even had discussions with some of them about the past “bullying” and they explained their actions. How there perception of women like me (Light-skin) stemmed from a certain self-hatred. They were projecting their hatred of a media’s beauty to real people. Little did they know I never saw them as anything but beautiful. Being the only lightie, I yearned to look like them.
Too often black women do this to each other. We are turning into a clan of haters. It’s bad enough our race, as a whole, has to face opposition but why are we sub classing ourselves by shade? I get so tired hearing black women rag on Vanessa Williams, Thandie Newton or Paula Patton and how the media displays them as some of the most beautiful woman. Big Whoop, they’re mixed and have European features, and? Those women are GORGEOUS. By the one drop rule they are still one of us! Heck, I’m fully black and look more like them. Not to mention the media, nor I, deny the brown beauties of Queen Latifah, Gaberielle Union or Kerri Washington. So why do we always point the fingers at the light-skinned role models?
You may argue the fact, well those women (Thandie and Paula) are seen as a universal pretty what dark skin woman can you name with the same status? (Naomi Campbell) Another big Whoop! Ask yourself, what am I trying to attract? Go talk to your regular, every day black man. Ask him what he likes. At times my guy friends make me feel like I should just give up on black men all together. (lol) It’s always a unanimous vote that the caramel to dark brown skin chick with full lips and a voluptuous figure is “BAD.” I look in the mirror and I all see is fair skin, medium lips, two bee stings, and an iron board back. (I’m a chick that has to work out for curves) One male friend told me I should wear my hair in its natural wave because it makes me look more exotic. Oh so now I have to be exotic to be “bad” (pulls out Spanish dictionary) So damn, other races don’t won’t me (cause I’m still a nigra), the men of my race aren’t immediately attracted to me, and black women are wary of me. Great…..
Now, there’s the afro-centric/pro-ethnic movement happening. All the brownies that couldn’t go 6 weeks without a perm are cutting it all off and letting the natural kinky curl fly free. I’m with it! Let’s be the natural beautiful women God made. Oh wait, I’m not allowed to participate? Yeah, because some are so pro-ethnic that they harass and exclude their own kind. I guess I don’t look “Black” enough.
I get the rebel against white culture but I swear some brown women see a dude with a light skinned female and you swear she was Caucasian. (not that I have a problem with interracial dating but you get my drift) Yet, when I see a woman with smooth milk chocolate skin, full facial features, and natural hair you can’t tell me that’s she’s not beautiful. (I get even more hyped when I see such a beauty in an interracial couple) So tell me my Sistahs, why can’t you see me as beautiful too? No one is better. We face the same struggle. We branch from the same tree of beauty. We are all beautiful in SOMEONE’S eyes. Most importantly, WE ARE ALL BLACK. We gotta stop the hate and just appreciate ourselves as the strong black beauties we were born to be.
“There is one friend in the life of each of us who seems not a separate person, however dear and beloved, but an expansion, an interpretation, of one’s self, the very meaning of one’s soul.”—~Edith Wharton (via acollectedgentleman)
Marriage and How Some Women Feel Like a Man is the Key to Happiness
Girl:I want to be married by 27.
Me:...but you're single and 24. You're gonna find someone, date them, have them propose to you, and marry them in 3 years?
When I was a girl, I swore I was going to get married at 25. Then I turned 20 and I realized that was way too soon. Then I thought 27 would be better because I was with someone and by then, we would've been together for 9 years. Then I turned 21, then a year later, I left him. Now I'm just like"it'll happen when it happens," and I'm absolutely fine with that, but some girls aren't. I know a few girls who have that proverbial ticking biological clock. They have this strong desire to be attached; to be married to someone, it doesn't really matter who. They see every man as a potential husband and they treat them as such. Then they look at me with a mixture of pity/confusion because I don't have the same mentality. As if they feel sorry for me because how will I find a man if I spend my life not looking for one? How will I be happy?
I don't measure my happiness by a man that decides to be with me. I measure my happiness by how successful I am at living out my dreams. I gave up so much to be with someone before and I refuse to do that again. I'm not going to compromise myself or how I feel for anyone. Somewhere, there is a guy who's dreams will parallel mine or maybe he'll simply help me bring them to fruition. I haven't met him yet, or maybe I have. A few of the men in my life certainly seem to think so, lol. For now, I'm guarding my heart and following my dreams. I'm traveling down this path alone, but I'm definitely not lonely.
“To take a life when a life has been lost… is revenge, not justice.” - Desmond Tutu
So I originally wrote this as a response to a friend of mines post. I got so into my response I decided to repost it.
I woke up this morning with a mix of emotions. I have always been against the death penalty. Permitting death can be seen as mercy, really want someone to suffer make them rot in prison. Then again, if one of my loved ones was killed my stands on the death penalty could completely change . But, would that make me a killer and no better? It’s a very catch 22 topic. However, in the case of Troy Davis I stand against his death.
If there is any doubt in a case the death penalty should not be administered. I don’t care how many times it was delayed, how many courts looked at his trial, etc. Sentencing a crime by committing another is not justice. Period. It’s interesting though, I talked to older folk about Troy Davis and they shook their head and weren’t surprised. I got a lot “A cop was killed, don’t matter who did it someone gotta take the fall in order to protect cops.” What is this the 1950′s? I know this crime happened in the 1980′s but its the 2010′s. We can’t accept that anymore. An eye for an eye to keep power will just leave the world blind. No offense, but some cops don’t need that power. Not every cop is a hero. In fact MOST are shady. Let’s think about how many times we’ve heard a cop kill an innocent person due to misidentification over the amount of cops killed. Not saying the man is innocent but if there’s any type of doubt there’s not case for death. I’m sorry. The system needs to change. When you have cases like Casey Anthony and Dominique Strauss Kahn happen in the same year and both get thrown out because of reasonable doubt (granted they weren’t cop killings) this should have never happened. It’s just further demonstrating the conspiracy that if you have money, a certain stature, or part of a particular race the system will work for you.
Watching Today Show, Star Jones was trying to make the point that a rich white male would never be in this position just to be countered that a rich white male would never go around shooting cops. (a very eye-raising comment if you ask me an duh, a rich man won’t kill a cop. He’ll hire someone to do it for him or pay them off. Any mob movie can tell you that.) Star finished her statement by saying, “A rich white male would never be in this position because of the resources they have. Their lawyers would have gotten them off death row before it could be an option. Most minorities do not have that option.” That is truth. I’m still tight that Dominique Strauss Kahn was serving his “time” in a pen house apartment in New York when you have regular people still in jail because they can’t pay bail for jaywalking. Smdh…. Something ain’t right…
I gotta give it to our generation. We like change and we’ll fight for it. Not everyone is a 24/7 activist but there’s enough “trenders” to balance it out. Between the economic recession, the blatant racism happening in government, etc. America is moving backwards. It’s up to us to keep it moving forward. The officials that run this country and justice systems are old heads stuck in an older time (I personally think the “Tea Party” is nothing but a modern day KKK) more concerned about personal gain over the cries of the people. I really wanna uproot them all.(Sorry, government and media have been pissing me off a lot lately)
However, (I might get some hate for my next comment) I still like President Obama. I think he genuinely wants to help the middle and lower classes. Plus I like underdogs and he’s clearly being bullied by the entire GOP. I know a lot of people were upset with him yesterday saying, ” Why isn’t he doing anything?” Well, because he can’t. The president has no say in such state policies for real, for real. It would have to be MUCH BIGGER, as in a threat to many lives, for him to step in. Plus, let’s be real, he got an election coming up. We gotta stop treating Obama like our great black uncle that’s gonna get every black person off the hook. I give the man credit for being colored blind. He wants to help all people not just blacks. I mean it was cool for us to feel superior that first week he was elected into office but after that it just becomes ignorance. After that you have an “Animal Farm” effect where we are no better than those that oppressed us. We gotta think about Human injustices not just black ones. I heard a lot of caucasian voices speaking out against the death of Troy and I welcomed them all with open arms. That’s how it should be.
A lot of people gave the comment, “it’s just one life,” well it’s one life too many in my book. Especially if that life had a possibility of innocence. It’s time for a change. I hope enough people keep up the good fight. BUT, most importantly I hope people follow their words with actions, i.e. vote and attend jury duty.
Is it just me, or is social networking taking over our lives? I can recall back to summer 2005, right before my freshman year of college, that’s when I first heard of Facebook. Upset because I still didn’t have my college email address. Feeling extremely uncool because I couldn’t make virtual friends like so many of my actual friends were already doing. When Facebook and I were finally acquainted we became best friends during my college years. Not only could I keep in touch with friends from home but surfing through Facebook was like watching a soap opera. Between changing of relationship statuses, statuses updates, and the putting up or taking down of pictures the real life drama of my network would entertain me for hours.
I am addicted to social networking. I’ll admit it. First thing I do when I get home is open up my computer to see what people are talking about on the net ways. It’s not just facebook either, oh no. Nowadays Facebook only gets checked at most 3 times a day. No, it’s not because it became significantly less cool due to applications and lack of exclusively (My mom joining was awkward) either. It’s because between twitter, foursquare, google+, AIM, tumblr, etc I just don’t have time for Facebook like I used to. So many ways to socially network it’s hard to keep up.
Who knew I cared so much about other peoples random thoughts and daily activities. Social networking has awaken the dormented mini- stalker within me but also indirectly allows me to give people reason to equally stalk me back. I mean can you really call me out for knowing what you did last Friday night when you posted it on your page. So what if I had to actively go to your page to find out, you still put it there.
My smart phone, is an enabler filled with applications for twitter (which are checked constantly), I make sure to check in via Four Square when I go to new places. I have an application that allows me to log on to gChat, AIM, Facebook messenger. In a way I’m always connected and I HAVE to be connected. I get a certain type of anxiety when I don’t check twitter after a certain amount of time in fear I’ve missed something. Sad part, sometimes I find myself so enthralled with my virtual life I find myself neglecting my real one.
There have been moments when I will be paying more attention to my twitter TL then an actual person talking to me in my face. I don’t know what it is but reading/ having online conversations can sometimes be more intriguing then listening to a physical person telling me about their day over a cup of coffee. I once tried to talk to my room mate about her day just for us to stare at each other when we realized we already knew what the other did due to twitter.
Phone conversations can only last so long before I get annoyed and recommend we just text. I feel my verbal skills dimming and writing skills shaky from all the broken sentences due to the limits of 140 characters. All my social networking is doing is slowly turning me more and more socially awkward. I know many wonder, How did socially- awkward Facebook creator, Mark Zuckerberg, develop the largest social site ever? My answer, by secretly making us all as socially- crippled as he is…
“Here’s a thought, in this financially peril time where technology is the reigning industry but educational funding is harder to come by……. how about creating more non-profits geared towards teaching the next generation computer engineering? I always hear of organizations putting computers in schools but what about the programs that teach computer programing, etc. Not saying that clerical duties are no longer necessary, almost all industries are requiring a degree of computer literacy, but if the next generation of middle class (or below) citizens have any chance of future better off than their parents……. forget just making doctors and lawyers teach these kids how to code. Just my Opinion——- BDub”—
New Orleans, Louisiana - It may be difficult to believe, but it has been six years since Hurricane Katrina hit, and for New Orleans East, that means six years since Six Flags New Orleans has been sitting silent in their midst. The mayor of New Orleans, Mitch Landrieu, is shining some hope on…
Hi! I’m Kanye West and I’m Jay-Z. Recently we dropped a collaborative LP entitled “Watch the Throne.” A lot of our fans felt that we lost touch, only rapping about “making it” and the millions of dollars we both now have. Just to show we are still in touch with our roots and not on our rich man ish we opened a pop-up store to sell our album exclusively. Hope you like it.
I had the opportunity of seeing “Sister Act” a jazzy new Broadway musical and let me tell you, it was fun. Based on the hit 1992 movie, starring Whoopi Goldberg, Sister Act is the story of young wannabe show girl Deloris Van Cartier who’s forced to pose as a nun after witnessing her hoodlum boyfriend commit a murder. Although Deloris faces opposition with head Nun, Mother Superior, and the adjustments of lifestyle she manages to turn the church’s troubled choir into a show-stopping hit.
The show isn’t a must see. I personally don’t think the timeline needed to take place in the 70’s. The songs were….. meh….. to me no number gave me that standout performance. I’m also not a huge fan of Patina Miller’s (Deloris) voice. However, these minor opinionated complaints will not stop me from recommending this show. This show will have you laughing, dancing, and rejoicing from beginning to end. It was a simply just FUN.
Recently I had the opportunity to see the new Broadway show “Spiderman: Turn off the Dark.” In case you didn’t know this show has been surrounded by controversy since conception. From injuries, delays, rewriting and firing acclaimed director Julie Taymor (The Lion King Musical, Across the Universe) the multi-million dollar production, which was supposed to be Broadway’s next big blockbuster, unfortunately became Broadway’s biggest joke. With each new failure gave critics new ammo to close the show before it even opened. However, even with all the problems Spiderman was still on my “must see’ list due to my love of the theater not to mention I’m a fan of the comic.
I wont lie to you, the first 30 minutes of the show I had a “What is this” face. The opening number had the signature Taymor flash but it made very little sense to me.
The first couple of songs were less than spectacular and Reeve Carney’s rock tone wasn’t helping. Carney’s voice actually just confused me because it didn’t seem to fit a nerdy persona like Peter Parker. However, T.V. Carpio as the Goddess Arachne was perfect. Her tone matched the serene character flawlessly but I digress….
The choreography would have been more effective if it didn’t seem so unrehearsed. Some transitions were very choppy. You could almost see the thin layer of glue they used to piece Julie Taymor’s and replacement director, Glen Berger’s, visions together. But the deal breaker for me was the Blow Up doll they used to represent a wrestler to fight Spidey. I was done and curious to find out where all the money went.
I was about to walk out of the theater when the AMAZING happened, Peter Parker turned into spiderman. Once the stunt man made his first leap over the audience as the costume vigilante I was hooked. As Peter Parker transformed in to Spiderman the show transformed into something worth watching. Forget the stage choreography the aerial work makes up for it. The already very intriguing set becomes even more alive giving the audience the feeling they are watching a comic book come to life and it is really cool. The story line, which was basically a make shift of Sam Raimi’s Spiderman movie franchise, wasn’t overly done and kid friendly. Patrick Page as the Green Goblin brought a new level of wit to the show that was missing in the first half. Last but not least, collectively Bono & The Edge supplied enough note worthy songs to encourage me to download the album. Some are even billboard top 40 worthy. (“Rise Above” has been on repeat. See link) I asked where did the money go and the last hour and thirty minutes of the show answered it for me.
I had my skeptics on how they were going to make a comic book hero into a successful musical. To be honest I can’t even say “Spiderman: Turn of the Dark” is successful example. However, I will say by the end of the show you will be so WOWED and ENTERTAINED. By the end I totally forgot about the beginning and my $40 became well worth it.
it is so strange to see this photo. it is the Six Flags Theme Park in New Orleans, Louisiana. i grew up in New Orleans, and i remember so many summer days that were spent riding the rollercoasters and enjoying my youth at this theme park. After Katrina, and the park was flooded, it was never repaired and went up for sale. It is still abandoned and has not been bought yet. this photo creeps me out and makes me remember the light that use to be here, that is now overtaken by darkness.
Wow is that really JazzFlags? I remember spending every sunday there the summer before my freshman year of high school.
Here’s a picture of the theme park during Katrina.
So today I did my monthly expenses and life is kicking me in the ass. Seems like if I try to have even a little bit of fun I’m either going to have stop eating for a while or sell my body. Neither option seems appealing. I could just wake up, go to work, then come straight home to prevent any extra spending but if the movie “The Shinning” has taught me anything it’s that all work and no play is the formula to make a serious serial killer. Besides working to go to work is not the way to live, especially during the summer months. So what’s a girl to do when she has no money?? Get a suga daddy or suga mama? (don’t judge desperation is persuasive) No, good thing about living in New York City there’s plenty to offer for the broke folk. With summer comes summer event’s. Since I know I’m not the only one out here struggling here’s some summer activities that I found.
1. Summer Concert Series: Good Morning America and the Today show both have their own series. Every Friday a MAJOR music star performs a free concert at a different venue. Artist this summer include Beyonce, Lady Gaga, Chris Brown, Jennifer Hudson, Maroon 5 and more.
Movies under the stars: Taking place at parks through out the five boroughs are movie screenings. Bring some blankets and a picnic and enjoy a film under the stars. http://freeforall.epixhd.com/calendar
Museums: A majority of the museums in NYC are suggestive pricing. (Give what you can) A CAN NOT MISS exhibit has to be the Alexander McQueen exhibit at the MET
Can’t Afford a Gym: Be Fit NYC is a campaign sponsored by the NYC Parks and Recreational Department. They offer a wide variety of free fitness classes from kick boxing to salsa through out the city. http://www.nycgovparks.org/befitnyc
“You know what this mess tells me? That if you report a rape, you have to be perfect. You can’t make foolish choices. You can’t talk to a drug felon on the phone, (especially if they’re one of a disproportionate number of people of color incarcerated for drug crimes.) You can’t be too poor to hire investigators to do their own digging. You can’t live in housing associated with HIV. You can’t be an immigrant. You can’t be a woman. You can’t be a woman of color. Unless you’re the right kind of witness, you just can’t afford to tell the police or anyone else that a man with power, money, global connections and sense of entitlement raped you. Because you’re below his, the prosecution’s and The New York Times’s pay grade.”—
New York Legalizes Gay Marriage!! It Is Not the End of the World
Yup, you read that correctly! New York’s Gov. Cuomo has signed the bill and in 30 days members of the LGBT community can be legally hitched. This is a huge VICTORY for the LGBT community and what perfect timing for such an announcement other than Pride Week (which concludes this sunday).
As you can imagine, this announcement wasn’t a joyous one for everyone. Naturally many conservatives are livid and lashing out. Searching the web I ran across comments like this one, "Judas beats Jesus in NY!!!Same sex marriage passed. Signs of 2012" How unfortunate is that. It amazes me that a party that supposed to be advocates for the “American Dream” and “Christian way of living” are the worst kind of Christian Americans. Walking hypocrites.
A small history lesson, The United States of America was given the nickname ”land of the free” because it was a place of diversity. A place were different ethnic, religious, etc groups could go and be free. One reason this was possible was because the U.S. created a system that separated church and state. However, there was a loop hole in the system. Many legal definitions are based on religious cognitation. The definition of marriage is one of them.
My suggestion is that the Government should treat these matters like you separate your personal life from your work life. For example, I am a proud Christian raised in the Non-Denominational teachings. I believe that marriage is a spirtual unity made between a man and a woman before God and the church. (That’s my personal life.) When I sign the marriage certificate it simply allows the government to acknowledge the unity I have made (kinda like a business partnership). Therefore I will be able to fullfill my vows and wifely duties with the benefit of having the government back me up. (That would be my work life) Based on my distinction in my definitions I have seen couples who may not be legally married but are spirtually married and I’ve seen couples who are legally married but not spirtually married. It’s all matter of perspective.
By denying the LGBT community the right to a legal marriage it demonstrates how personal the government has gotten with their work. It’s hard enough losing a love one, especially one that you’ve stand by for years through sickness and health. Imagine losing them and also everything tied to them. Unfortunately that’s life for many of the members in the LGBT community. If their partner falls ill and comes from a family that never approved of their lifestyle the family has all legal rights. Which allows the lifestyle dispproving family every right to remove them from the process and keep them away from their ill partner. That situation is hard for anyone but at least I can get married in the hospital to gain power. What if you can’t? All you can do is be helpless………
So if a government can identify marriages united by the teachings of God, Christ, Mohammad, Allah, or any other religious divinty why can’t it acknowledge a marriage because of sexual orientation? The church needs to realize that this victory does not mean they are losing. (Technically a legal marriage does not guarantee the church’s blessing in a spirtual marriage and the chuch will not be penalized for discrimination. Sorry it’s the whole separation thing) Not all homosexuals are athiest and it would be ingnorant to believe they all are. Just as it would be naive to believe all priest are saints. If you are a practicing Christian than you believe that man was born into sin (i.e. no body is perfect) and it is through our spiritual beliefs and practices that allow us to better ourselves. We may not agree but it’s not our Christian duty to discriminate or Judge only to pray for the salvation of others and ourselves.
Just Realized I didn't post this...... "Weiner Pulls Out........"
I know, it’s horrible pun that has by now become very cliche, but it’s still quite funny.
So, unless you’ve been living under a rock these last two weeks you should know that the headlines of headlines has been no other than Congressman’s Anthony Weiner’s sex-capades. Now I’m not here to report on Weiner’s scandal (like i said by now we should all know it). No, I actually want some opinions about political infidelity and the Sext trap.
Anthony Weiner isn’t the first politician to resign do to infidelity. In fact it seems like every term it’s revealed that some “wholesome,” “conservative,” “family- oriented,” politician has a bastard child or prefers paying for sex rather than sleeping with his wife. Which brings me to my first question, why do they do it? A politician’s career is based solely on their image. Even though a good 98% of them are corrupt, the “wholesome” facade is a must. So why mess it up by messing around? Is it the power? The idea they can get away with it? Or are they really just that kinky? I’m not sure. However, I do know this, they obviously aren’t smart about their acts. If you can pay a woman for sex then what makes you believe she can’t be paid to sell you out. All things done in the dark will eventually come to light.
Now comes the question of sexts, at what point does it become too much? Anthony Weiner’s case is a sad one. He is the victim of a crime so many men are guilty of, posting half nude photos of himself. Granted he was soliciting sex as well but that’s a given. Should we really blame Weiner or social networking? If Weiner can’t have his job neither should half of them men on facebook. Going through my friends list a good 1/4 of the male profile pictures are topless camera phone pictures taken in the bathroom. Anthony Weiner does it and we’re ready to lynch him (and nothing gathers the mobs quite like an public execution.) We literally embarrassed the man out of office. So he get thrills by sending pictures of himself half clothed and talking dirty to women. Who isn’t guilty of that. How many of you sent an “Inappropriate” picture to someone? Does it make you any bit less suitable to do your job?
NEW ORLEANS — Everyone should walk down Bourbon Street once, but for some of us, once is enough. There are, of course, lots of other streets to walk down in New Orleans’ French Quarter, nearly all of them imbued with charm and infested with us: tourists.
So where does the artist in…
Every time I suggest places for people to go in Nola my list always include walking these two streets over bourbon street.